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Ruling on woman shaking hands with her husband’s brother – Shaykh Muqbil ibn Haadee رحمه الله

Q: Is it permissible for a man to shake hands or to be in khulwah (i.e alone) with his brother’s wife?

A: This is not permissible. It’s narrated in <Saheeh> from the narration of Uqbah ibn ‘Aamer that the Prophet ﷺ said: “Beware of entering upon women “
A man said: What about Hamu [i.e in-law], O Allah’s Messenger?  He ﷺ said: “Hamu is [like] death”The Women is considered Fitnah, because of that, the Prophet ﷺ forbade to a  women to travel except with a Mahram (i.e.  An unmarriageable kin, e.g. her brother, father, grandfather, etc..) And the Hamu [in-law] – who is the husband’s relative – knows the husband’s time and the time when he is not present at home or when he is in travel, and so on. So the Fitnah with him is greater than with others, because of that, the Prophet ﷺ said: “Hamu is [like] death”. So, too is the female cousin (i.e. In respect of a male).

The rule is that the women with whom you cannot marry at all, is the one with whom you are allowed to shake hands; the women with whom you are not allowed to marry: your sister, your mother, your aunt, your aunt from father’s side.. Also the sister in-law (the Shaikh means wife’s sister here) he is not allowed to shake hands with her {Your step daughters under your guardianship, born of your wives to whom you have gone in} [4:23] The step daughter, if she is under his guardianship and born of his wife and this is the opinion of Ali Ibn Ali Talib May Allah be pleased with him, which is the correct. However, Al-Jumhur’s opinion [i.e the majority of the Scholars] is that the step daughter is impermissible to marry at all even if she is not under his guardianship, but do not make the word {under your guardianship} go in vain. And Allah is the only One whose help is worthy to be sought

From “at-Tabarruj wa s-Sufur” tape

Translation by al-Binaa Publishing