شاهد كيف تعامل الشيخ عبد الرزاق البدر مع رجل عامّي وقع في مخالفة شرعية
How Shaykh Abdur-Razzaaq al-Badr deals with a common person who falls into an opposition of the religion
“If kindness and gentleness are used with the one being given dawah to, then this will have a great effect in the field of dawah. I remember an incident which comes to mind. Once in the Prophet’s masjid during the Jumah prayer, an individual who was praying next to me remained prostrating during the last tashahhud until the (imam) had reached the middle of the tashahhud. He left following (the imam) until the imam had reached the middle of the tashahhud, continuing to make dua in his prostration. So when he finished praying, I gave him salaam and then said to him:
“My noble brother I noticed you made your prostration lengthy”
He then tightened his hand as the agitated one does and began to say what is wrong with this, it’s (only) dua and so on. (So I said): I wanted to say to you may Allah accept everything that you supplicated for, then he said: Ameen.
So initially he was all excited and then he calmed down completely. I (then) said to him:
“The scholars say that lengthening the prostration is (only) recommended and following the Imam is obligatory, so you must not put a recommended (act) before an obligatory one.” He (then) said: may Allah reward you, this was a great benefit.
So during matters like these and in uneasy situations, if kindness and gentleness are not present, then the goal will not be reached. Some people only want to convey a benefit in any manner possible whether it is accepted or not. This person only wants to establish the evidence (upon the person) whereas the matter really requires kindness so that the benefit reaches the heart of the person without irritating him and without disturbing him in his worship, his actions or his drawing near to Allah.
Rather one should show kindness in the way a doctor shows kindness to a sick person. The doctor is soft and gentle with him. He tries to convince the patient to take some medicine, a shot or other than this from the matters which he is in need of.”
Translator: Abu Anas Atif Hasan